Given the doctor's prognosis, Bronwyn's death was expected. Her daughters, Claire and Susan, also saw their mum's death as a release from her suffering. Bronwyn had lived a long and fulfilled life, but for the past year the cancer had made her very uncomfortable, and she had missed her husband dreadfully.
Bronwyn had taken out a funeral plan with a chain of funeral directors after her husband died. Her daughter Claire had the details, so she knew who to call. The person she spoke to said they would collect Bronwyn promptly and Claire need not worry. Claire hadn't worried - until a call came through a few days later.
A man called Geoff phoned. He explained that he was from another branch of the funeral directors' chain, a few towns over. The branch Claire had first contacted was temporarily closed because one of their staff members had contracted COVID-19 and most of the others now needed to self-isolate at home. Geoff's branch would now be looking after Bronwyn's funeral, but he did need to let Claire know that they were currently not sure where Bronwyn was. He was apologetic and clearly trying to sound reassuring and professional about their efforts to locate Bronwyn's body, but Claire could tell he was somewhat stressed. She realised that getting cross with Geoff wouldn't help resolve the problem, so tried to keep calm and thanked Geoff when he said he would call again when they had an update.
The next day, Geoff phoned again, sounding very relieved. They had found Bronwyn. He explained that a staff member from the branch Claire first contacted had arranged for Bronwyn to be taken to one of the chain's central mortuaries that they use when there are lots of people needing funerals locally. In all the fluster when the staff member contracted COVID-19 and they were trying to rearrange their work, someone hadn't managed to update all the records. Bronwyn was safe. Claire thanked Geoff for keeping her informed and updated.
Geoff was relieved Claire had been so calm. He had needed to call several families about the missing bodies, and some had been very angry and verbally abusive towards him. He could understand this - they were already grieving and suffering because of the pandemic - but it was hard to be the messenger of such difficult news. Geoff was also worried about the reputational damage this incident could cause the chain he worked for and implications for his and the other local branches involved.
Claire was relieved that Bronwyn's body had been found. She needed to give her sister Susan a call. But she wondered whether she should tell her about the saga of Bronwyn's body 'going missing'? Given that Bronwyn had been found now, perhaps there was no need. Of course, if Geoff hadn't been honest, Claire might never have known either. She reflected on how much goes on 'behind the scenes' and how you might wonder whether you were burying or cremating the right person.
Suggested questions for reflection and discussion
- When and how should funeral directors (or cemetery or crematorium managers) tell clients about errors or shortcomings that occur in their work?
- What else, if anything, should funeral professionals do if an error or shortcoming is noticed? What can and what should be done within the funeral industry to improve reliability and avoid errors?
- If you had different ideas about whether Geoff should have told Claire, and whether Claire should have told Susan, what for you were the important differences between their situations?