Beanie's funeral

Beanie's funeral

Beanie was the only name that his friends and fellow activists knew him by. He had worn a fisherman's knitted hat for as long as anyone could remember, and although no one could remember who had first called him Beanie (because of that hat), the name had certainly stuck. Only his brother, Rich, and his family still called him John.

When the doctors told Beanie that his cancer was very advanced, he opted for a palliative treatment plan. Rich took him in to care for him. Both appreciated the stream of messages and occasional visits from the friends with whom Beanie had shared over 20 years of his environmental campaigning and his life.

It was a time of deep reflection for Beanie. He was determined when the time came for his funeral for it to be as environmentally friendly as it could. He found particular purpose, energy and meaning in researching the many environmental impacts of funeral. And he reached a number of conclusions and decisions.

Beanie left instructions for a natural burial, requesting that his body be wrapped in a linen sheet and placed in a willow coffin that his friends could carry to the graveside. He requested only garden flowers as tokens. Beanie had selected his funeral celebrant carefully and he trusted his brother Rich, who was also his executor, to carry out his wishes.

Rich didn't have quite such a commitment to environmental concerns as his brother, but he wanted to do what was right by him. He was also trying to support his children, who had been very upset by their uncle's illness and death. Rich told them about the farewell ceremony their uncle had planned before he died. Rich's eldest daughter suggested that it would be lovely if everyone released balloons and his youngest echoed enthusiastically. Rich was grateful that they were keen to join in.

Rich mentioned the balloons to the funeral director, who immediately said they could source them and asked if Rich had any particular colours or designs in mind. The celebrant was more cautious, expressing concern about the environmental impact and that the idea was not really in keeping with Beanie's wishes for his funeral. Then the manager of the natural burial ground explained that releasing balloons was not consistent with the site policy of minimising harm to the environment, so like plastic flowers, balloons were not allowed there.

Rich was committed to giving his brother the funeral he wanted, but still, he didn't want to disappoint his children. He wondered what might be best to do.

Suggested questions for reflection and discussion

  • Should people who organise funerals always follow the wishes of the deceased when these are known? Can you think of occasions when an expressed wish might not be appropriate or should be set aside?
  • What other environmental concerns can arise in connection with funerals?
  • How do you balance environmental concerns against other funeral preferences?
  • Who in the funeral industry should be concerned and responsible for mitigating the environmental impacts of funerals?
  • When and why can it be right for funeral professionals to say 'no' to a request from the people who are paying for a funeral? What kinds of request, if any, do you think should be refused and why?

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